Kev came as part of a package – his son, Josh, who was five years old at the time Kev re-joined our church. He had brought Josh back to Warrington, where he was to live for almost three years, before returning to his mum in Scotland. Now, as I think I have previously mentioned, I have never been a ‘kiddy’ person. I have no maternal instinct and have never wanted children, so the impact of this little fellow on my life was so much more astonishing.
We were on a church trip to Hollingsworth Lake when Josh ‘accosted’ me and asked me to play with him. I was quite surprised, as I don’t usually attract the attention of small people, but I politely agreed. He trustingly took my hand, walking alongside me and chattering confidently. He was funny and cute and intelligent and perceptive. He stole my heart!
I quickly became besotted with this small boy. I bored my friends with tales of what Josh had done and said. I wanted to spend as much time as possible with him. This was unheard of for me, and people could hardly believe it when I told them. By this time, I had my contract for Poland, to start in September 2015, and all I wanted to do was to spend as much time with Josh as I could. Needless to say, Kev came with the deal, so I happily met up with them both for walks, tea, any excuse to see Josh. But – slowly and surely – I was beginning to develop feelings for Kev. I saw how he was with Josh, and what a wonderful and loving father he was. I got to know Kev, heard his story and shared mine. We became such good friends.
I remember once when the three of us were taking a walk along the canal in Monton; it was a beautiful day. Suddenly, Josh asked, “Ann, are you married?” I said I wasn’t and he replied, “Why don’t you marry my dad, then?” He took mine and Kev’s hands and put them together! I pulled away as if I’d been burned and I don’t know whose face was redder – mine or Kev’s! I firmly believe this was God’s doing. He wanted me to be with Kev and used Josh to bridge the gap between us. And I have to say, Josh did a sterling job! I found that I was missing Kev, as well as Josh, when I wasn’t with them. I was talking to my sister about Kev, when she said, “You love him!” I denied it strenuously but she knew …
We began to talk on the phone on most evenings and we would also email each other at work, sharing anecdotes about our day. The lady I worked with once remarked that my face ‘lit up like a Christmas tree’ when I got an email from Kev. Hmmm.. I had to finally admit to myself that I was falling for Kev but there were so many problems. After our previous histories, I wondered if either of us would be able to trust again, but my real concern was that I had just signed up for two years as a teacher in Poland at a Christian English language school. I had prayed for this opportunity and there was no way I was going to let the Lord down on this. Two years seemed such a long time and I told myself that we couldn’t possibly make it work. But God had other ideas..